In my spiritual counseling practice I come across many, many women who have desperately fallen in love with a married man. Some women stay because the ‘unavailable man’ assists them financially. These are few. Other stay given that they may ‘subconsciously’ n’t need the commitment but feed off the romance the married man offers. Others stay since they are married themselves , nor want to leave the safety of a relationship but want the ‘candy’ or stimulation of the outside affair.
A lot of others stay in the relationship given that they are convinced : 1) the guy is unhappy and not fond of the wife (roughly he says). 2) He is expecting the children to grow up and then leave the house and his awesome children come first (‘natch) 3) she has too much occupied financially in the ‘loveless’ marriage and should not leave as they will grow broke.
If you wish to fallout of love having a married man there are numerous things you should do. First coming from all, reevaluate how much you love yourself. Do you’re keen on yourself enough to just accept the ‘crumbs of time’ your married man offers you? If you think about it, they are stolen moments put on shame. Or do you intend to have a solid relationship that will last your lifetime?
Second of all, you have to put yourself inside wife’s position. How would you feel it you’re her? Perhaps your married man has painted a picture of an evil, hollering banshee who inside daylight is really a wife at night an insulting hag. Just remember it will require two to fail a married relationship. Your married man is not the innocent bystander meekly putting up which has a shrew of an wife.
Also you need to ask yourself this: If your married man, miraculously left his wife for you personally, how much time will it be before he keeps on an affair behind YOUR back? Can you truly trust him? If you cannot trust him then there is no real love there, just obsession.
To fallout of love with a married man requires no magic potion, but a difference of mind. An evaluation of how much time and feeling you need to put into a relationship without any real return. Some tell me, ‘well each and every time I try to draw in back he calls me and draws me back. (I’ve heard any particular one countless times).
The simple truth is. You have the chance to say no. You have the power NOT to return his telephone calls. You have the capacity to leave your work (particularly if you are having an affair using a married co-worker or boss).You have all of the control over your situation. You may put up all sorts of excuses to justify that are used for still with him, but YOU have the capability to turn away forever if you need.
Remember if you are experiencing an affair on the job, it behooves you to pay attention individuals that may know regarding it. Because when the affair has ended YOU will be usually the one under scrutiny, he’ll just be another guy who conquered another vulnerable woman. This can happen specifically if you are working in a very male dominated company.
Being in love with a married man is a dead end affair. There isn’t positive reason to remain with him either. As his ‘mistress’ you are an accomplice in the deception towards his wife and family. You are enabling him to remain married by being ‘there’ when he needs you. Most importantly you are wasting your youth, your daily life and your ex girlfriend on someone that may say you’re the most wonderful thing that ever happened to him, but who’ll NEVER present you with the love you deserve. Think of it that way, and you will probably begin to see the light and direct your ex energy and concentrate to something or another person who is by far more worthwhile.